4 Weeks old


I’ve had cross words with EX’s sister as she thinks it is out of order I haven’t put Ex on birth certificate and that I asked for a week off from his daily “how is the baby’ phone calls. Just needed a week to get my head together one little week post natal to try strengthen my head and feel in control of my emotions towards him – I asked for 1 week but he couldn’t even do that, he text me after 2 days “I’m FINDING THIS NO COMMUNICATION VERY DIFFICULT’, HOW IS SHE? Yeah try it when your pregnant mate I felt like saying but replied, “the baby is fine”, after all that’s all he wants to know right? I get three calls and texts this week– I end up replyng “LEAVE ME ALONE -DO U ACTUALLY WANT ME TO GET OVER YOU?” Of course he says things like “It’s my baby too – I just want to know how she is” He then implies I’m selfish for wanting abit of space! Jesus she’s fine if anything wasn’t I’d call him – it’s so weird him saying she’s my baby’ because she is but because he wasn’t there for me the last few months I feel like I’ve done it on my own and it just feels like he donated some sperm and some stress to the whole situation. He would of course argue he also donated cash and without that I wouldn’t have a roof over my head. So I’m to be thankful for everything he is done apparently. Oh something else to be thankful for is his Auntie says to me “I know things haven’t turned out exactly how you hoped but at your age you might never had children”. Wow yeah at 33 years old I’m well over the hill… Thank god Ex impregnated me and saved me from a childless life, because I probably would have never met anyone else who would have actually wanted me for who I am and wanted to have a family together. Thank you ex you has truly saved me. Grrr. I haven’t put him on the birth certiificate because he has to prove to me that he deserves ‘parental responsibility’ which is the legal term for rights to your child, if he has that then he has exactly the same rights as me – to choose where we live/school/immunisations etc and that means for instance if I wanted to live in Ireland with a new bloke he could make me come back if he had these ‘parental rights’ I think I need to see what kind of person he is going to be to have to deal with being her parent. I really do want him on it, it would be horrible if my daughter didn’t have her father on her birth certificate
I’ve said I will give him rights and we will put him on the birth certifcate on her first birthday.